00:01 |
Intro – You’re going to hear an interview with Dr. Debra
Pepler about bullying. This is the first in a series of three podcasts.
The second podcast is about bullying from the parents’ and teachers’
perspective. The third podcast is about bullying in the workplace. |
00:55 |
Our expert is
Dr. Debra Pepler, a Distinguished Research Professor of Psychology
at the LaMarsh Centre for Research on Violence and Conflict Resolution
at York University, as well as Senior Associate Scientist at the Hospital
for Sick Children in Toronto. With Dr. Wendy Craig, she currently
co-leads PREVNet – Promoting Relationships and Eliminating Violence
Network. She is a world-respected authority on bullying research,
who provides advice on safe schools and contributes to advisory committees
related to parenting, antisocial behaviour and school violence. You
can visit PREVNet online at www.PREVNet.ca. You’ll find wonderful
resources there, all centred around the goal of “creating a
world without bullying.” |
02:02 |
Bullying defined
as a form of aggression where there is a power imbalance; the person
doing the bullying has power over the person being victimized; power
differential increases over time. |
02:46 |
Bullying rates
place Canada near the bottom of rankings internationally; there is
no national strategy to bring this issue to the fore; PREVNet is trying
to change this. |
03:35 |
Bullying as a
relationship problem; Dr. Pepler describes her research in the playground;
bullying problem requires relationship solution. |
05:11
|
Bullying patterns
of behaviour can carry on through life; may become dating aggression
or sexual harassment; people who bullied in elementary school are
more likely to be aggressive later; can lead to unhealthy relationships. |
06:10 |
What can parents
do about bullying? The first step is to look at your own behaviour.
We have power over our children; it’s important not to use this
power aggressively. |
07:02
|
Model positive
behaviour and model “repair” after you’ve made a
mistake. Watch your child interact with others. |
07:30 |
Look for opportunities
to teach. |
08:06 |
Keep lines of
communication open with children; ask about their day. |
08:40 |
Talk to teachers
or other people in the child’s life. |
09:45 |
Try to shift
your child’s use of power from negative to positive. Ask yourself:
What is my child really good at? |
10:50 |
What about cyberbullying?
Challenge for parents and teachers is that when kids are in cyberspace,
we can’t see their interactions. It’s important to keep
the computer in a common area within the home. |
12:30 |
Hard to break
out of the bullying pattern once it’s ingrained. |
13:30 |
If your child
has been victimized, talk to him or her about it, and be sure to follow
up the next day. Listen to the answers; understand their distress;
make suggestions. Suggest being assertive, but don’t advise
them to fight back. |
14:46 |
Visit the PREVNet.ca
Web site for articles and other resources. |
15:00 |
Thank you to
Dr. Debra Pepler. |
15:47 |
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