00:00
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Introduction of Betty |
00:48 |
Betty’s unintended path after her mother died;
the results of an emotional response. |
02:07 |
Selling the home and inviting Pops to live in the
family home. |
02:25 |
Challenges of having a “guest” in the
home. |
03:55 |
Another issue: Pops is still your dad. |
04:00 |
Effects on Betty’s son; family dynamic changed
overnight. |
04:55 |
Benefits of Pops in the house: Betty and her husband
could go away for a week; easy to make sure Pops
was taken care of (food, clothing, and so on); no
driving to check on him. |
06:00 |
Changing relationship with Pops; he used to be the
person Betty ran to with her problems, and now he
is dependent in many ways; hard to lose the person
you used to depend on. |
07:25 |
“This
is my future too,” says Betty. |
08:20 |
Each small incident shows that the entire parent/child
role has been reversed. |
08:55 |
Practical necessities; modifications to the home
to ensure safety. |
10:37 |
Betty says they should have bought a bungalow. |
10:56 |
Betty and her husband made an effort to maintain
their own social network; some friends were not
sympathetic when Pops wasn’t invited to the
dinner table. |
12:45 |
Pops was very supportive of Betty’s efforts
as a volunteer and member of a wider community. |
13:30 |
Support for elder care in the wider community; Betty’s
friends were very understanding. |
13:45 |
With people living longer, and our great healthcare
system, many of us are faced with the prospect of
elderly parents in our lives for years. |
14:45 |
Pops doesn’t think he’s “old,”
and resists joining a seniors’ group. |
15:55 |
You can’t impose your will on an elderly parent. |
16:00 |
Look for programs in the community so that your
elderly parent is not isolated. |
17:40 |
On the flip side, it can be very difficult to care
for an elderly parent who does NOT live in your
home. |
18:20 |
Looking back, Betty thinks she should not have made
a long-term decision when dealing with the emotional
shock of her mother’s death; “taking
care of” a parent does not necessarily mean
taking him into the home. |
21:48 |
Importance of planning for possibility of elder
care; how your credit union can help with wealth-management
services, estate planning or a home-equity loan. |
